When I was leaving high school, I wanted to get a degree, get a wife, a family, have a house, and be on my way to country club membership, supported by my large stock portfolio. None of this happened, and I'm glad. I am having fun. I have a woman whom I love, and I'm enjoying life. I used to have goals, and I would get so stressed trying to meet them. Or even more stressed when I had fallen behind and was trying to catch up. Now whem people ask me what my 1, 5, and 10 year plans are, I tell them, "To have fun." What is the point of these goals if you can't enjoy the fruits of your labor.
That's another thing I don't understand. Pleople who are slaves to their jobs. It's great if you enjoy your work, but most of us don't. Work is a means to an end. A tool, if you will. It is something that provides you the resources to live and enjoy life. For some, it more surviving and less enjoying, which sucks and we need to find a way of rectifying. But I see a lot of people who make very good ammounts of money and are miserable. They are afraid of being laid off if they don't work 14 hours a day, 6 days a week. They don't enjoy what they are doing and are stressed. They never have time to take the money they have earned and go have fun. Maybe being laid off is what these people need. To be weened from the teet.
Take my friend Erica for example, she was a very successful DBA. She made good money, but she got sick of the long hours. She was not happy. Eventually it wore her down. She left and followed her dream. She loves to cook and sew. She works as a desert and pastery chef, and has her own seamstress business now. While she makes far less cash, she enjoys herself a lot more.
So, my thrity years of "wisdom" have told me, if you are unhappy, stressed, etc, you need to change your situation. It might be your job. Maybe the person you are with brings you more stress than joy. Maybe there is too much sun or rain where you live. Maybe you live too close to you neighbors, or not far enough. With all the power vested in me, I direct you, yes YOU, to change something. To tinker with the flow of your existence. To prune, trim, fertalize, and make your life grown in the direction you want. Just do not get stuck in a comfortable rut, thinking things will improve anyday. Life is dynamic, and keeping in a form of artifical staticness, will just lead you deeper and deeper in to your rut. Party, socialize, met now people, live for today. Do not let your life be ruled by, "woulda, shoulda, coulda." If you have regrets, you must be unhappy where you are. We all make mistakes, but if you are happy right now, then there is no reason for regrets.
Party on, Dude!